How to survive after the honeymoon...
Dear Black Women,
Let’s face it.
Relationships can be tricky.
Marriage and commitment takes work.
Sometimes we lose the drive to cultivate our romantic relationships because of comfortability, a lack of reciprocity or because we are just plain tired.
It’s typical to want to complain about our partners when our feelings are hurt.
It’s normal to seek out the negative qualities when we are sick and tired of being sick and tired.
It’s easy to call it quits and seek out the affection of someone else when times get tough.
I believe that all of those feelings are normal reactions of our humanness.
We are imperfect people striving to love imperfect people.
But it’s worth it.
Especially when you’re connected to the RIGHT person.
Let’s focus on what you do when you’re connected with the RIGHT person but your relationship has lost its fizzle.
📝Be honest. Many relationships fail because we refuse to be transparent about our feelings and we expect our partners to just know. It doesn’t work like that. If you are hurting, say that. If you are missing something, say that. Open communication is powerful. Remember a closed mouth doesn’t get fed.
📝Date each other frequently. Most committed relationships are tied to busy people. Each person has an individual life and then you have your life together. Trying to find a healthy balance can be trying but it will bless your relationship if you be intentional about setting time to date. Start a date night fund. Get creative. Go beyond your typical dinner and a movie. Date nights don’t have to cost a lot.
📝Learn your partner’s love language and stay committed to loving them that way. The 5 love languages by Gary Chapman are Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. You and your partner may have similar qualities but you’re not the same. You probably don’t even love the same or view love the same. Learn what makes your partner tick. The more you invest in this practice, the bigger your return will be. The best return is a happy and healthy relationship.
📝Stop the comparison. Who cares what so and so’s spouse or partner does. You’re not committed to them. Water your own grass. I promise you they aren’t telling you about the weeds they pulled out of their own yard. You don’t know everything that goes on in people’s houses. Don’t be fooled by what is or not posted.
📝Work on you! The best love is self love. Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, sexually and financially. Healthy people birth healthy relationships. Not perfect. But relationships that are whole and progressing...
At the end of the day, we were created for that one special person.
The person you can change the world with.
If you got them, work together to make ish happen.
Someone is out there praying and ready for the love you have.